Love shouldn’t be defined and neither is gender. As times have evolved and people have become more open-minded about sex, intimacy has come up in various combinations, among which are transgender romantic relationships. Unlike real life partners, the process of having sex with a transgender person is a completely different kind of enjoyment. You get to experience the feeling of having your desires fulfilled and satisfying someone else’s sexual desires at the same time, which is something you can’t do in a usual intimate relationship. Here’s what you need to know if you want to try sex with a transgender person once and get maximum satisfaction.
1. Avoid using the wrong terminology
A trans person’s gender is up to them, so you need to understand what gender the person wants to be and then use the appropriate pronouns to refer to them. Use he/him if your partner identifies as male and she/her if they identify as female. When you’re not sure what your partner needs to be called, don’t just decide on pronouns, you can just ask him, it’s easy. The correct use of pronouns will make your relationship seem formal and will make the other person feel respected.
2. Don’t use derogatory terms
Although modern people are becoming more open-minded, there are still some people who don’t understand and question transgender people. There is a list of derogatory terms for transgender people, such as Shemale, Ladyboy, Trannies, It, He-She, etc. Remember that these terms should not be used in your conversations, especially when you are talking to someone who is transgender. The expressed meaning of these words alludes to prostitution and pornography. Saying them is like saying that your transgender partner is no different from those who participate in pornography, become porn stars or work as prostitutes. So, never utter these derogatory words.
3. Respect the gender of the other person
When you are unsure of the other person’s gender, don’t voice your guesses on the spot. Some female-looking transgender people may think of themselves as woman on top or man on top in bed. Male-looking transgender people may consider themselves to be in the inferior male or inferior female position in bed. Therefore, do not take the liberty of guessing the gender of the other person to avoid offending them.
You also need to respect each other’s gender when you interact in bed. For example, some FTM do not like to engage in sexual activity without a dildo. Some FTM wear a dildo for comfort; they don’t intend to use it and don’t think it is useful and doesn’t provide much sexual stimulation. With or without the use of a dildo, it is important to follow the other person’s lead and do what they feel their gender should do.
4. Communicate play
Before you feel like having intergender sex, you need to communicate what you want to do with each other and how you want to play. You can communicate what kind of position you want to adopt on the bed and what kind of props you want to use, as well as the identity of which of you is the top and which is the bottom. Communicating these beforehand will keep your sex sessions accident-free and ensure that the sex goes smoothly. In addition to the dildos that are most commonly used in cross-gender sex, you can also try other novelty erotic toys, such as rose toy. It can help you have automatic oral sex when your hands and genitals are busy, enjoying double stimulation during sex and becoming an intense experience that will keep you coming back for more.
5. Don’t have a psychological burden
There is no questioning, and this is the first and foremost guideline that everyone must understand and know. If you can’t accept a transgender person in your heart, and still have a relationship with a transgender person, it will be emotionally damaging to both you and that person. After accepting a transgender person, you need to remain absolutely open about sex and also not be unable to accept some kinky sexual play of your partner, it is just a sexual fling between you. Always make sure that you accept your transgender partner, if you violate it there can be serious psychological repercussions.
6. Cleaning up for each other
Don’t forget to clean up after sex with a transgender person by applying moisturizing body lotion and ointment to protect your intimate areas. After taking good care of each other, snuggle up with each other again, and then you can summarize the process of sex between you. Say what you found comfortable and uncomfortable, try adding fun props next time for the comfortable areas, and remember to improve on the uncomfortable areas next time. This will give you and your partner a nice feeling of sexual fulfillment.
Final Thoughts
Knowing the above important points well, you as well can communicate well with the transgender person, define your intimacy and usher in a great sexual experience of your own in the sweet time to come. If you are looking for a different kind of sexual excitement, then go ahead and try transgender sex once.